Saturday, November 26, 2011


One of my faviorite songs of all times is I hope you dance. One of the best phrases in that song is: " Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along. Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone." Ask yourself this question are you taking life for granted?

I had a therapy session with new client the other day and his words got me thinking. He has grown old, and has lived a good life. In his session after telling me a little bit about himself he said "I've always been a strong man. Physically I could do a lot. I've raised a wonderful family. I have a wife who loves me. As I have lived my life I grew old. I'm not as physically strong as I use to be. My mind doesn't work like it use to. I use to look at the people who were older, and never thought that I would be I'm them. Life moves too fast. What scares me most is I have never wasted any time, and enjoyed my life. Now I can't remember many of the memories that I've created. " We had a great session, and at the end of our session he looked at me and said "If I could leave you with something it would be this laugh a lot, count your blessings, take chances, love like you have never been loved, and NEVER take one day for granted."

Everyday I meet many wonderful people who 50 years ago were living the life that I'm living right now. Their stories are powerful, their wisdom is magnificant, and yet many of them are forgotten. One day we are here, and the next day the stories of our lives are ended. Some of our legacies live on, but how many of you remember your great, great, great grandparents? One of the great things about my mother's family is they have gathered an extensive family history. It's so amazing to learn about my grandparents and their families. Their stories have brought me faith, and have given me guidance through difficult times in my life. I'm learning more about my dad's side, and it's amazing getting to know who I am and my families legacy. Even though these people have passed on their stories make me apart of their life and my love for them grows stronger. I encourage all of you to get to know your family.

I can't believe how fast time flies by!!! Many memories stay fresh in my mind: The first day of kindergarten, my first best friend, my first date, my first kiss, graduating high school, my first day of college, graduating from college, my first job, etc.... the list could go on and on. My faviorite memories are not my first though they are the one's that happen everyday like conversations and interactions with my friends and family, sunrises and sunsets, meeting people, laughing, crying, and never taking one single breath for granted. I'm so grateful for my life, my family, my friends, and my experiences. I hope that I in 50 years can look at a person who is me now and say "I have lived a good life, and I never took it for granted."

Crystal Angel

Monday, November 7, 2011

The words we use

Words are powerful. We use them everyday. We use them to explain things. We use them to seek understanding. We use them to comfort a loved one. We use them to express feelings and the desires of our heart. Yet, the words we use can be destructive, hurtful, and hateful. The other day I called my niece Kristin. In her quivering shaking voice she shared with me that she was being bulled at school. She told me that she tried to be strong, and not allow the other children’s words to bother her but she told me that the words they said to hurt her. In the midst of her pain she told the children who were bulling her that she didn’t want to live anymore, because they wouldn’t stop teasing her. To hear how much my niece was hurting……. made me angry and disgusted.
Let me tell you a little about my niece. She is amazing. She can light up a room just by being in it. She is funny, helpful, talented, and brilliant. Sometimes I sit in totally awe that god sent me this wonderful person to be part of my life. We had a good conversation about why people say the things they say, and we talked about hurt feelings. We also talked about things that make us happy, and things to look forward to. We shared laughs, dreams, and loving words. Kristin told me she felt better(and to tell you the truth I felt better too), and we ended our conversation with three words “I LOVE YOU.”
The powerful effects of the words we use can be described either in psychological or spiritual terms. On a psychological level, every single word we speak and every single word we hear goes into our subconscious mind and creates some small or large effect there. How these words affect our psyches and attitudes are inevitable going to have a powerful effect on how we experience, interpret, and respond to the events of life.
On a spiritual level the words we use can be beautiful. Words describe our feelings, emotions and our thoughts (the way we communicate). God knew exactly what he was doing when he gave us the freedom to choose and create. Our words can also be the difference between night and day, right and wrong, or pleasure and pain. We have to be responsible and accountable for the words we choose to use. The words we choose to use and how we use them makes a huge difference and has the greatest impact on people’s lives. Use words with caution.
There is no greater joy that comes to my life by using the right words. I pray that each and everyone of us can use our words to build people up rather than drag people down. To the individual BE RESPONSIBLE with the words you use. To PARENTS teach your children to use word that will build their fellow men. As thumper says, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.”